by Pearl Nash August 25, 2022, 6:35 am

You’ve been eyeing this guy for a while now, but you don’t want to look too desperate by asking him out.

Well, what if I told you there are actually things you can do so that he’ll ask you out, and that they’re quite easy to do?

Here are 15 surefire ways you can try that will surely make him want your attention, hook, line, and sinker.

Let’s face it. Your looks are going to be one of the first things that he’ll notice about you.

If what you have going hasn’t caught his eye, you can try spicing things up a bit.

Try dressing up in a sexier outfit. But even subtle changes like letting your hair down instead of tying it up will help, and bolder shades of lipstick can draw his gaze to your lips.

But here’s the thing: Don’t try too hard.

If you try presenting yourself in a way that clashes with who you are, then sure you’ll draw his attention, but probably not in the way that you like.

So try to find a look that works with you and matches your personality.

It’s a tough world out there for women.

We’re trained to be nice and talk nice so we don’t offend anyone. But while valid, it can also make you seem, well…boring.

And the last thing a guy wants out of a girl he’s talking to is for her to be plain and dull.

So don’t be afraid to show him your quirks and weird interests.

Try not to filter yourself too much. Say what you mean and be unapologetically yourself.

You can also show your personality in simpler ways so he can connect with you. For example, you can wear a shirt of your favorite sports team, or put a figurine of your favorite movie character on your desk.

Show off what makes you unique and he’ll be drawn to you.

Guys can’t resist it when a girl makes them feel needed.

Men will go crazy for you if you can make them feel like they’re your savior, or that they can make a difference simply by being around.

This is because of the phenomenon known as the Hero Instinct.

Identified and described by James Bauer in his best-selling book “His Secret Obsession”, it is a biological drive written into the genes of all men.

This doesn’t mean you should beg him to help you out, of course. The idea is to make him want to help you out but a simple plea for help—or, even better, to volunteer without prompting.

In my experience, it’s especially effective if you share with him some insecurities that are related to things he can do something about.

For example, if both of you are artists, you can try to open up about how you’ve been feeling slightly insecure about how much more talented everyone else around you is. You can also try asking him if he can give you some tips or help you out.

And of course, when he’s offering you his help, make sure that you’re actually paying attention and then give him your most heartfelt thanks.

Make him feel like the time he spent helping you out was worth his time, or otherwise he’ll feel like you were just exploiting him.

There’s more to it, of course. Which is why I recommend checking out this excellent free video here from James Bauer himself on the Hero Instinct.

You like a man who can make you laugh, right? Well, guys like that in a girl too.

They like a bit of humor, goofiness, and wit. They actually find it very attractive and even sexy.

But you don’t have to throw punch lines all the time. That can be annoying.

Sometimes all a guy needs is a girl who can laugh at his jokes, or at least a kindred spirit who can get his sense of sarcasm or quips.

If you’ve got a talent for pranks, then you can try mild ones if he’s into that. Some guys love a bit of mischief.

Try a witty pickup line beyond the “Hey handsome…” and if he smiles, you’ve hit the jackpot.

Having a good sense of humor means that you’ll be able to keep the mood between the two of you light and enjoyable. You know how to have a good time in any situation and it shows your level of intelligence and creativity he can be on board with.

It’s only natural that when you want a bit of attention, you have to put yourself out there for him to see.

If you do nothing but sit quietly in the background, he will never notice you.

So don’t shy away from the limelight or try to disappear into the crowd. At the same time, making grand, quirky entrances might not be wise either.

Instead, just go around actually talking to people. If you’re feeling bold, you can try talking to him.

And if there’s a chance for you to show off your talents, go ahead. Sing with all your heart if people ask you to sing. Or impress people with the way you mix drinks.

Get out of your shell so you’ll be noticed by your guy!

A little bit of flirting is a thumbs-up for any guy. It’s a clear sign that tells him you’re interested.

The occasional subtle tease—the kind that will leave him wondering “wait, did she just hit on me?”—will turn him on without coming on too strong.

Use body language like turning your hips and shoulders toward him and don’t cross your arms when he’s in the room. Or if you’re acquainted and in speaking terms, you can tap his shoulder lightly as you converse and nod in agreement.

Even just stretching your neck will make his imagination run wild.

Remember: subtlety is the key. There’s a fine line between sultry and awkward, so make sure you don’t come on too strong and keep it light.

Men like to work it when they’ve locked their target on someone. It’s hardwired in them biologically to pursue a desirable mate.

As dating and relationship coach Clayton Max says, “A woman can’t “convince” a man to want to be with her”.

Instead, men choose women who they are infatuated with. These women stir up a sense of excitement and desire to chase them.

When he sees you talking to other guys, he interprets that to mean that they are interested in you as well and he begins to see them as competition.

He will welcome the challenge and try to win your favor. He knows he can’t dilly-dally and take it easy or else some other guy will get to you first. He won’t like losing.

If you’re too available, he’ll lose interest straight away. So don’t appear like always raring to go and you’ll never turn him down. Keep him on his toes.

When you do it right, it’s rewarding to play hard-to-get.

Like a limited edition item that makes itself scarce, he will value you like a prize he has to win over.

And you can do it through texting, too!

Watch Clayton Max’s quick video here where he shows you how to make a man infatuated with you (it’s easier than you probably think).

Infatuation is triggered by a primal drive deep within the male brain. And although it sounds crazy, there are a combination of words you can say to generate feelings of red-hot passion for you.

To learn exactly what these texts are, watch Clayton’s excellent video now.

Don’t be too available all the time or the guy might think you’re dull and have nothing to do.

Trying new things and hobbies will give him the impression that you’re engaging and fearless. But don’t push yourself too hard out of your comfort zone just for the sake of getting him to notice you.

Do what you really want. Follow your interests for YOU and not so you become attractive to men.

It can be little things like learning a new recipe, or a jogging routine. How about some yoga? Or test your green thumb with a bit of gardening?

Try them out and genuinely enjoy them. Your happiness and excitement will radiate. He’ll pick up on it and be drawn to you naturally.

I’m sure you’re just as curious about him as he is with you, so why not initiate a bit of small talk?

You can talk about your hobbies and something common between you two will definitely come up. When he finds that you can be on the same wavelength, he’ll definitely remember you and put you in the “women I want to marry someday” category.

You can explore interests like art, music, literature, or sports. Or maybe a similar taste in movies. Even if his preferences are not exactly your cup of tea, don’t lose hope. You can show willingness to learn about them.

Finding common ground will create more opportunities for the two of you to be together, and bring you a lot closer.

Studies show that a person who looks people in the eye is more likable and trustworthy. But there’s something even more obvious— you’re interested.

When you look at him and he looks right back, there is a connection being made.

The longer he keeps your gaze, the more tension builds up and triggers many chemical reactions causing your brain and heart to go haywire.

Maintain eye contact for as long as you can.

Sparks will definitely fly and you’ll feel warm and fuzzy.

Making eye contact is an intimate act that promotes feelings of vulnerability because it seems like you are looking straight to his soul.

It makes him feel special and important when you keep your eyes on him. He’ll definitely know that your attention is on him. Don’t stare for too long though, or it might make him uncomfortable instead.

Smiling makes for great first impressions and men find it very attractive.

When you smile a lot, you are more approachable. Especially when you give him a wave and a casual hi or hello. That will certainly get him to notice you.

But go beyond just the superficial.

Be more pleasant and cheerful, inside and out. Affect people with your positive energy especially during the most challenging times and he’ll be effortlessly attracted to you.

A pretty face can catch his eyes, but a lively spirit can touch his heart.

Don’t be intimidated by the word cute. You’d be surprised to know what guys find to be cute and how easy you can show them.

It’s important to appear confident, serious, and you have your act together.

But once in a while, you can grab his attention by breaking the mold. Sometimes when you’re a bit clumsy it triggers him to swoop down and help you up.

You can show your dorky, silly, and playful side by making a funny face to make him laugh. Laugh if you spill a bit of your drink. Lick ice cream off a cone instead of eating it with a spoon. Make a milk mustache or leave a crumb on your cheek.

These sweet little things will definitely register in his radar of adorableness and he’ll want you in his pocket real quick.

Of course, don’t pretend to be cute. That’s a big turn-off. Instead, don’t be scared to show your real cute self.

Pheromones are chemicals secreted by our body to attract the opposite sex.

When mixed with body odor, they trigger biological responses that can drive a man crazy—in good, and bad ways.

You can have a signature scent so that every time he smells that, he associates it with you. Studies show that rose oil (not rose!) and vanilla are the fragrances men find to be most alluring.

Smelling good obviously makes you more attractive to guys, but this does not require you to splash an entire bottle of cologne. Scents are mixed with other secretions so it’s best to pay attention to your hygiene.

Even if you use the most expensive perfume, foul body odor is offensive and will definitely send the guys running away.

Layering scents with your shampoo, body soap, and fabric conditioner is an effective way to have a mild wafting fragrance that will surround you the entire day. Plus, when you couple this with an overall kept appearance of cleanliness, you’ll turn heads for sure.

Your scent will act as an aphrodisiac that will shoot straight to his pleasure sensors.

Men don’t generally like to approach groups they aren’t part of, much less intrude.

He may want to approach you, but if you’re always out hanging with your friends he may think twice and stay away instead.

What’s more awkward and humiliating than trying to talk to someone, only to realize that everyone else thinks you’re intruding and would rather ignore you or chase you away?

It’s much easier for him to approach you if you spend some time all by yourself.

You will also exude the aura that you have no problems spending time with yourself and don’t need much to keep yourself entertained in any situation.

Sit under a tree with a good book. Bring a sketchpad and scribble people passing by. Enjoy the music at the bar counter.

Make sure you’re not too engrossed in something like furiously typing away on your laptop or you have headphones on and eyes closed. This will have the opposite effect because it communicates that you’re quite busy and don’t want to be disturbed.

Look around and take a breather from time to time to show that you’re interested in the world  and that you welcome a good chat.

You can miss the chance of having fateful encounters because some people are just too engrossed in their own world.

Sometimes you have to push the right buttons to really get them to look up and snap out of their reverie.

By this I mean doing something unexpected like giving him a gift with a friendly card if you’re close enough.

You may want to bring his favorite cookies to power him through a rough time at work.

If material gifts are too much for you, you can always rely on good timing and a bit of acting to “accidentally” grab his hand or rub shoulders.

It might be embarrassing to you both, but a flustered reaction or blush can be cute and endearing too.

These sudden acts of closeness will make him aware of your presence. A positive reaction is an indication that he wants to get to know you more.

Getting a guy to notice you doesn’t require you to be someone else or change who you really are.

Most of the time, it simply means that you need to be a bit more bold, or a little less withdrawn.

Recognize your own comfort zone, but also try to see if you can go beyond it little by little. Sometimes all you need is a little confidence and a little time to surpass your limits.

In the end, you simply need to be the best version of you that you can be.

And of course, knowing about and taking advantage of a guy’s inherent triggers—things like the Hero Instinct—goes a long way to helping you succeed.

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.

I know this from personal experience…

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Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey.

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